Bishop Jeppesen moved our "5th Sunday" meeting from December 29 to December 15. This meeting was held for a combined Priesthood, Relief Society, Young Men and Young Women group. The lesson, on Family History, was a lesson on the Church website, lds.org, and was to be given by every ward in the Church. The lesson in its entirety can be found by clicking on the following link:
http://www.lds.org/topics/family-history?lang=eng
Specifically, there was a request to put the article from the New York Times that was cited in the lesson on our blog. Read it in its entirety by clicking on the following link; it should take you to the article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html?pagewanted=all&_r=1&
Some of the quotes Bishop Jeppesen used were these:
"What is the secret sauce that holds a family together? What are the ingredients that make some families effective, resilient, happy? ...I spent the last few years trying to uncover that information, meeting families, scholars and experts ranging from peace negotiators to online game designers to Warren Buffett’s bankers.
After a while, a surprising theme emerged. The single most important thing you can do for your family may be the simplest of all: develop a strong family narrative."
"I first heard this idea from Marshall Duke, a colorful psychologist at
Emory University. In the mid-1990s, Dr. Duke was asked to help explore myth and ritual in American families...[Dr. Duke along with a colleague, Dr. Fivush,] developed a measure called the 'Do You Know?' scale that asked children to answer 20 questions.
Examples included: Do you know where your grandparents grew up? Do you know where your mom and dad went to high school? Do you know where your parents met? Do you know an illness or something really terrible that happened in your family? Do you know the story of your birth?
Dr. Duke and Dr. Fivush asked those questions of four dozen families in the summer of 2001, and taped several of their dinner table conversations. They then compared the children’s results to a battery of psychological tests the children had taken, and reached an overwhelming conclusion. The more children knew about their family’s history, the stronger their sense of control over their lives, the higher their self-esteem and the more successfully they believed their families functioned. The 'Do You Know?' scale turned out to be the best single predictor of children’s emotional health and happiness.
“We were blown away,” Dr. Duke said.
And then something unexpected happened. Two months later was Sept. 11. As citizens, Dr. Duke and Dr. Fivush were horrified like everyone else, but as psychologists, they knew they had been given a rare opportunity: though the families they studied had not been directly affected by the events, all the children had experienced the same national trauma at the same time. The researchers went back and reassessed the children.
“Once again,” Dr. Duke said, “the ones who knew more about their families proved to be more resilient, meaning they could moderate the effects of stress.”
Why does knowing where your grandmother went to school help a child overcome something as minor as a skinned knee or as major as a terrorist attack?
“The answers have to do with a child’s sense of being part of a larger family,” Dr. Duke said.
"The bottom line: if you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones. That act alone may increase the odds that your family will thrive for many generations to come. "
